It’s easy to go hard on oneself. Personally, I’m world-class at it.
I have big dreams, like too-big-for-my-own-good type of dreams – and deep down inside I know with unshakable confidence that anything I set my mind to really is possible. As romantic or glories as that might sound, it’s quite the trick of the mind. You see…
Sometimes I find myself in states like guilt, self-disappointment, jealousy or even hate. So I wonder “When anything is possible… I mean, with ALL possibilities available, why in goodness greatness great balls of fire would I choose those shitty options? At all? Even for just a split second? I ask myself, why does my existence consist of this shitty time – and to top it off – for no reason at all?!
Someone, TELL ME!! I’m being treated unfairly! Why?!”
In those moments. When experiencing real struggle, I have a strange, but oh so universal tendency to add some proper beating-myself-up-for-it. And being the Mr.Fix guy I am, I really fast start thinking that I need to fix who I am. I start believing I desperately need to figure out how to make myself better/different than what I currently am, cuz this shit definitely ain’t working!
I even tend to take it personally. “MY life sucks, I’m the victim of shiftiness, this must mean I’m not doing this life the right way, not good enough. I’m not worthy, hence; I need to fix. I need to figure out a way to become worthy and good enough.”
Out of nowhere, I’ve created a monster. I find myself in a check—mate situation. I’ve created a problem I can’t solve. A perfect way to add more frustration to my frustration. Spread some overthinking on that worry, would’ya?
This activity of desperately trying to manage my feelings is actually one of the crappiest ways to get back to a clear mind. But then and there it looks like the best idea ever. It seems like the only option. It looks real to me that it’s my job to change how I feel.
But finding myself feeling shitty only means one thing; at that moment, I’m apparently generating a shitty experience for myself.
There’s nothing to do about it. Let me explain…
Believing there’s a certain application that will effectively result in a positive experience, is a misunderstanding of how our mind actually works in reality…
There’s good and bad news.
First, the bad; No application can ever make you happy. Period.
There’s no real correlation between any application and happiness. If there was an absolute. A Principle. A law of nature saying you can do a certain thing, which will directly result in happiness, no one would ever do anything else. Ever.
However, we believe it to be so. That’s part of life.
We look around us, forgetting that we’re living in a thought-generated experience. So we point our fingers, attributing our feelings to something out there. This illusion of thought. This mirage of life, is extremely useful to understand a little bit about, as just a basic understanding of how our minds create an experience for us, gives us a more accurate model to work with in our daily lives. It gives us an updated map of how psychology works, so we don’t have to jump into years of depression simply cause we felt depressed for a while. and that’s the good news, Humans. We are life. We are limitless forces of nature. We are naturally built to thrive. From birth, you have happiness in you. The search is over. You had it all along. Remember?
We have unlimited potential deep in us. At all times. Our ‘clean slate’- is pure energy, pure potential, formlessness – forming in every moment. Then we have the ability to actually be aware of it. We have the ability to know that we exist. To observe what’s happening. Consciousness is a wonderful gift letting us be aware of whatever’s going on in our human experience at any given moment.
Realising on a fundamental level that we’re creating our experience from the inside, that life happens through us with or without our interference actually softens up the idea that we need to figure out anything at all to be ok. There’s nothing to fix. Our moment to moment experience is created from a place of peace and tranquility wether we see it or not, and realising that helps us more easily fall back to our truth without adding more ruminating.
It was you all along. You with a big Y. Me with big M. This universal fact I’m pointing to be called spiritual, it can be called randomness, Intuition, Love, Truth, God, the almighty, Spaghetti-monster, Trust, Universal Mind. Rock-sissor-potato-head!
A misconception I often meet when sharing this understanding is when people read or listen to my words intellectually. As if my words were formless. They’re obviously not. So know that everything I’m writing and saying is always slightly missing the target I’m pointing to. I’m pointing to what’s before my expression. Underneath my art.
I’m hopefully pointing you to your own sight of inner power. Your own realisations coming from you.
See, all I’m doing in my coaching conversations when people come to me with their feelings of struggle is teaching some simple principles behind our human experience. Doing my best to point my client in a direction where they can see something true that’s resonating for themselves. An insight into their own limitless potential. Not some more information from the outside that’s supposedly will give them “the answer”, but rather glimpsing a sight from within their own being. Remembering what was true all along. Tapping into that inborn awesomeness we’ve all got in us.
That which had us learn to walk in the first place. That which had us get up again for no other reason than that it made sense. Said in another way; nothing else made sense.
When that happens, when we really get a feel for that innate wellbeing bubbling in our core, magic happens. All of a sudden our existence levels up. We find ourselves seeing straight through the illusory thoughts holding us back, and we start exploring illusory thoughts that can help us instead, for the same simple reason we had as kids; nothing else makes sense.
Our problems of depression, guilt and hate turns into “just another thought” as we see through all of that. So when those thoughts arise, it no longer makes sense to engage with them. They get nothing to latch onto and perish instead. We understand that a new moment is around the corner. A new experience. A whole new feeling. The clutter clears up, and frees our mind to receive fresh vibes of glory!
The finest transformation you can have is simply ‘remembering something new’. Seeing for yourself what kind of potential really lies in you. The reason I write remembering is because I’m confident you already know this. Deep down, you know that there’s a pat of you that’s unstoppable.
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